One thing I have learned is that never let your personal issues get involved with gaming, especially in an mmorpg. Sure you can make great friends, sure you build relationships, sure you find a great guild with a great guild leader, but always remember it's a game. I have found that most people use gaming as an escape form the day to day grind to get away from what every it is they need to get away from and some people play for the fun of it and don't care who is on the other end. let's face it, if your in a guild (or not in one) you can be who ever you want to be and no one will know the difference (Unless there the FBI and can track you down, lol)... does this really matter? In all actuality no it does not as long as you maintain a consistent play/character style then no one will question you, but if your actions as a character reflect your actually life and you are having problems in your real life then everyone will take notice and start to ask questions, It's your decision if you wish, or not wish, to answer those questions. All I can say is be careful on how you answer those questions, it all depends on how much you want to put yourself out there to be scrutinized by others that you may know in game but truly you do not know. Trust me, I have been there and it sure can destroy some good friendships. You don't see them on a daily basis so you don't know what they are going through and they don't know what your going through. And by all means DO NOT put your business out there unless you are prepared to be scrutinized, questioned, poked and prodded. Everyone needs someone to talk too... so talk to your spouse, friend, pastor, councilor or loved one, make sure that person is tangible and willing to listen, do not dump your problems on someone you met on line in an mmorpg. Keep gaming to gaming and personal life to the real world.
Guilds can be fun,now the key word here is fun... don't destroy the fun and friendship of guild mates by including them in your business, If they notice something is wrong and they question you then it's up to you on how you want to answer, Just be careful and ask some simple questions to yourself. Can you really entrust your life's details with someone you met in a game? I'm sure you can but to what extent? Can that person truly understand what your going through? We all have different ways in dealing with problems/issues and what may apply to you may not apply to someone else. The people that play an mmorpg come from many different races, religions and backgrounds and everyone has there own baggage and deal with things differently. If you choose to give advice then be conscious of who you are talking with, ask yourself... how well do you know this person? How will I effect this persons life by giving that individual advice? Is it really worth my time to give advice? It's all up to you, so you make the call, just remember there is a human being on the other end of the keyboard reading every stroke of the keyboard you send. If you choose to enter that persons life on a personal level, just remember once actions are set in motion there's no turning back, what's done is done for better or for worse (Hopefully for the better). Also Never Ever pass judgment on someone, especially if you do not know them and there circumstances/background. Everyone lives separate lives, everyone makes choices, everyone deals with things differently, everyone has different backgrounds. What my apply to you may not apply to that person, what advice you give may not fit that person or may not be feasible for that person to accomplish...
THINK before speaking...
Remember people pay to play games and have fun, you dumping your personal life on individuals or a guild will make things worse for you and place other gamers in an uncomfortable position. The basic rule of thumb is keep the details to yourself.
There are some exceptions to this but overall I fell what I have written should apply.
MOST OF ALL... IT'S AN MMORPG YOU PAY TO HAVE FUN SO HAVE FUN!!! If you want to pay for advice then go elsware! Believe me an mmorpg is not the place to get personal/individual advice!
Guilds can be fun,now the key word here is fun... don't destroy the fun and friendship of guild mates by including them in your business, If they notice something is wrong and they question you then it's up to you on how you want to answer, Just be careful and ask some simple questions to yourself. Can you really entrust your life's details with someone you met in a game? I'm sure you can but to what extent? Can that person truly understand what your going through? We all have different ways in dealing with problems/issues and what may apply to you may not apply to someone else. The people that play an mmorpg come from many different races, religions and backgrounds and everyone has there own baggage and deal with things differently. If you choose to give advice then be conscious of who you are talking with, ask yourself... how well do you know this person? How will I effect this persons life by giving that individual advice? Is it really worth my time to give advice? It's all up to you, so you make the call, just remember there is a human being on the other end of the keyboard reading every stroke of the keyboard you send. If you choose to enter that persons life on a personal level, just remember once actions are set in motion there's no turning back, what's done is done for better or for worse (Hopefully for the better). Also Never Ever pass judgment on someone, especially if you do not know them and there circumstances/background. Everyone lives separate lives, everyone makes choices, everyone deals with things differently, everyone has different backgrounds. What my apply to you may not apply to that person, what advice you give may not fit that person or may not be feasible for that person to accomplish...
THINK before speaking...
Remember people pay to play games and have fun, you dumping your personal life on individuals or a guild will make things worse for you and place other gamers in an uncomfortable position. The basic rule of thumb is keep the details to yourself.
There are some exceptions to this but overall I fell what I have written should apply.
MOST OF ALL... IT'S AN MMORPG YOU PAY TO HAVE FUN SO HAVE FUN!!! If you want to pay for advice then go elsware! Believe me an mmorpg is not the place to get personal/individual advice!
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